585. No expectation needed.

There are times which we might have people's expectations unto us.
For some reasons at certain times, people's expectations are too high for us to achieve, and this may lead us to a blindspot situation. 

Worsen enough, typically there will be people who might speculate this and that to us, without knowing the real story that was decreed to us. Whoa, amazing right?

Living in these year and this age and of course this place had brought me to a situation where I don't have any idea who is the best and what are qualities to be seen in a leader.

I have seen people are almost neglecting the integrity to be seek in a person who might elected to become a President, or you know, those High Committees people. hurm.

And this is scary.

Those person who always become the latecomers, as well as absentees, who are not serious while lecturer asking them questions and etc.



A leader is a person who is always willing to learn new things, proactive, meaning always look up to the next stage of every working stages, hardworking, committed, charismatic, pious and the list goes on, and simply depends on other definitions from the viewers.


Do not ever said that, "I'm committed. You cannot judge me myself in class and while working. It is two different arena okay." NO. We are not living in those era of Brahms or Shakespeare, and you are even don't have the 'other side' like Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde don't you?

After all, being a leader is an amanah to be hold. We are indeed a leader to ourselves, there is no way for us to escape those responsibility. 

P.S What to say next?

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"Anis, awak kurang sifat soothing tu. Sila lahhhh belajar, nanti anak-anak macam mana nanti!"

Okeh. Tak tau nak reply apa.

Setelah di-reject untuk sebuah pelukan, terus di cop sebagai tidak 'soothing', tidak keibuan etc etc.

Saya selalu ingatkan diri saya, setelah belajar dari pengalaman silam, yang semua orang has its own struggle, and we are struggling ourselves in order to be a better person each day.

Sudahlah hidup kita 'dilimpahi' ujian, maka sudah menjadi lumrah kalau-kalau reaksi orang lain terhadap kita, atau reaksi kita terhadap orang lain, macam tak kena cara, kadang-kadang.

Tapi sifat berlapang dada dalam ukhuwwah itu bukanlah bermaksud untuk menidakkan rasa fitrah manusia yang ada ; marah, geram, tak puas hati, merajuk, sedih, emo, dukacita etc. Cuma, perlu dikawal.

Patutlah orang sentiasa berpesan, "Kalau tak mampu untuk berkata-kata benar atau menyenangkan hati, maka berdiam dirilah."

Orang lain mungkin nampak diri kita sebagai seorang yang periang, peramah, pe-tu, pe-ni, tapi kadang-kadang orang terlupa yang kita juga punya sisi sensitif yang mudah desensitized pada waktu-waktu tertentu.

Jangan mudah untuk jump into conclusions while dealing with other people, especially with the one you are talking with. Kita mungkin rasa diri kita adalah sahabat yang paling memahami, tapi di situlah sebenarnya titik perbezaan antara kita dan sahabat kita, kecuali kalau dia sendiri yang declare kita ni memang sahabat yang paling memahami. Memahami dan mengenali adalah dua perkara yang berbeza. 

Eh, faham ke?

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Jangan mudah speculate cerita, especially kita tak dengar straight forward from the REAL sources.

Ask. Don't assume. Don't ever speculate.

We are dealing with human hearts, people. Noted that.






P.S minggu penuh ujian.